Reclaiming Your Power: Listening to Your Inner Voice of Knowing

From the time we were children, many of us were subtly (or not so subtly) taught to give away our power. Think back to moments when you were asked to hug or kiss a relative despite feeling uncomfortable, or when you were told to “be polite” even if something didn’t feel right. These early experiences taught us to override our inner sense of knowing, the quiet but unwavering voice that guides us to what feels true and right for us. 

This pattern often continues into adulthood, whether in school, at work, or in our personal relationships. Over time, giving away our power becomes second nature. We let others make decisions for us, follow trends we don’t care about, or silence our voices in uncomfortable situations. It’s no wonder that for many of us, reconnecting with our inner voice feels like learning a new language.

Yet, reclaiming our power isn’t about rejecting connection or responsibility. It’s about building a life where our energy is exchanged in ways that honour our integrity and inner stability. It’s about listening to the voice inside of us that knows what’s right, even when it’s been quieted for too long.

Here’s how to begin reconnecting with your power and keeping it where it belongs:

Recognise How You’re Giving Your Power Away 

The first step is awareness. Reflect on situations where you tend to give away your power:

• Do you say “yes” when you mean “no”?

• Do you let others make decisions for you, even when you have an opinion?

• Do you follow trends or advice that don’t resonate with you?

• Do you hold back your voice when something feels wrong or uncomfortable?

Recognising these moments without judgment is key. Awareness is the foundation of change.

Reconnect with Your Inner Voice

That voice of knowing, your intuition never disappears. It’s always there, waiting to guide you. Start small:

• Pause and check in before making a decision. What feels right for me here?

• Give yourself permission to want what you want, even if it’s not what others expect.

• Practice noticing when your body gives you signals, like a tightening in your chest or a sense of ease, and use those signals as a guide.

Set Boundaries with Confidence and Grace

Reclaiming your power often requires saying “no” more often and more firmly. Remember:

• “No” is a complete sentence.

• Saying no to others can mean saying yes to yourself.

• You don’t have to explain or justify your boundaries; they are valid simply because they exist.

Avoid the Trap of Aggression 

Holding onto your power doesn’t mean dominating others. Aggression is often fear in disguise, while true power is grounded in balance and calm. When you act from a place of inner knowing, you don’t need to fight to prove your worth or force others to see your perspective. Instead, you radiate confidence and clarity.

Practice Discernment

Not every request or trend deserves your energy. Ask yourself:

• Does this align with my values and desires?

• Am I acting from a place of genuine connection, or am I seeking approval or validation?

• Is this decision rooted in fear or love?

Learning to discern what deserves your time and energy is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

Embrace the Power of Small Decisions

Reclaiming your power doesn’t require a dramatic overhaul. It begins with the smallest of choices:

• Saying “no” to plans that drain you.

• Expressing your opinion, even if it’s unpopular.

• Wearing what you love instead of what’s trendy.

These small acts build confidence, reinforcing your ability to trust your inner knowing.

Trust the Process

Building a relationship with your power takes time. You might stumble or second-guess yourself along the way, and that’s okay. Every time you listen to your inner voice, you strengthen your connection to it. Over time, it will become your most trusted guide.

Reclaiming your power isn’t about rejecting the world or isolating yourself. It’s about finding balance exchanging energy with others in a way that honours your inner stability and integrity. When you trust your voice of knowing, you stop jumping to meet every external demand or trend. Instead, you live with a quiet, unshakable confidence that your decisions are aligned with your truth.

Listen. Trust. Balance. The power you seek is already within you. Let your voice guide the way.